Friends.

What is a friend? The stranger who walked into your life and become someone you value? Or is it a come-and-go person? Or is it just a person who shares a common interest as you? For me, a friend is just a person that I know, and is on good terms with me. Simple as that. I know you, you know me, you don't hate me, I don't hate you, cool, we're friends then.





But what actually makes a good friend? A good friend is someone who will entertain you, enjoy fun things with you, probably comfort you when you're sad, make you laugh, or laugh with you. However, when they get too tired of your rantings, your bullshit and the attitude that makes up who you are, they'll distant themselves away from you, then slowly vanish into the list of people that you used to know. These good friends can be manipulated by your enemies, and with the right amount of "conditioning", they turn against you and join the haters. But these are the people you'll also need to make your life a little brighter and more vibrant, you can't leave them out of the equation.





Your buddy, a person who you can rely on, a person close to you like your own siblings. This person is the one who will back your ass up when you need the support, both mentally and physically. He or she is willing to take the rap for you, share the burden with you, even if it means sacrificing something for you. But slowly as your busy schedule shoves its way into your life, you'll find that both of you are seeing each lesser and lesser. Before you know it, your buddy becomes someone else's buddy due to lack of interaction. What happens? You'll lose someone very close to you. But that's okay, you've still got your bestie to back you up, right?





Ahhh~ Bestie. Someone you can confide to, someone who will avenge you, someone who can take all your nonsense and become his own nonsense, someone whom you can put all your trust in, because you know he'll keep that trust safe like a bank. He will never, ever (over his dead body) trade your trust for something he desires. And he will never, ever, stab you in the back and shank you in the butthole just because someone else tries to make him go against you. He won't brag about having a bestie like you to others, because deep down inside, he is just too proud to have you as his bestie such that no words can describe what a good bestie you are. He hangs out with you all the time. Even if it's just silence during meet ups, both of you will not feel awkward at all. He is the closest person to you. He is your wall to lean on. He is the one who sits beside you on the rollercoaster ride through your life's ups and downs. He'll beat up that kid who insulted your family because your family is his family. He'll call you nicknames like bitch, dude, douche etc. but both of you know that y'all love each other to bits. Both of you are like conjoined twins, going everywhere together despite other's mocking y'all about being gay buds or whatsoever. He is your homie. There's no one who can replace him because he is always at the top. You can lose everyone else as your friend except him, because if you lose him, you'll find that your life is as empty as a park during a zombie apocalypse. However, don't ever take it for granted and treat him like trash no matter how close you two are. Friendship is, nevertheless, fragile like glass. The more you treat him like shit, venting out all your frustrations and taking it out on him, the greater the likelihood of shattering the glass. Just so you know, a shattered glass can be pieced back using super glue or scotch tape, but it isn't going to be as beautiful as before.






I described these different types of friends based on anecdotal experience. More than a decade of socializing, and this is how I establish my approach to the hierarchy of friendship. It does ring a bell, doesn't it? We all have the same approach to the hierarchy of friendship, but maybe not as explicit. Before you start classifying people accordingly, think about it....... You actually qualify for all the 'appointments', no? You've been that friend who doesn't do much for others. You've been that good friend who's there to play when there's a time to play. You've been that buddy who's there to back your friend up but nowadays you guys are not as close as last time. Finally, you've been that bestie who's still bitching about others and spend lots of time in your twosome world. Well, if you feel that you don't truly understand what I've just said, it's either 1.You can't comprehend English words. 2.You need to start making friends.